the Yin and Yang of relationships

Hello everyone!

 

I have been performing many weddings lately..which brings me to reflecting upon relationships....

 

Many of us have a lot of expectation of things outside us to make us complete..

 

A partner is one of them.

 

So often, we are so busy trying to please and impress, we are bit by tiny bit, loosing touch with who we are...

 

The best part of us that our partners were attracted to seems to diminish as time goes on..

 

We are so focused on being a couple, we sometimes lose site of each being individuals with different points of view, interests,gifts and relationships outside of our  romantic one..

 

Remaining an individual, and allowing our partner to do the same creates the Yin Yang, the light and dark, the balance that union represents.... the two halves.

 

Our partners usually have qualities that we do not have in ourselves.. and those are, during times of duress, are the very things that we criticize.....

 

We then blame our partner for our unhappiness, when we made a conscious choice to surrender our authentic self.

 

 

My good friend Running Bear says it well;

As we find balance within, we begin to see that we are not meant to travel alone, that in partnering, we gain the insight of another who we admire love and respect.  It gives us that which we do not see in ourselves this creating a balance of its own.

 

Examine your relationships, both past and present, honor your self and your partner by being the best you you can be, look to them as a mirror for what you are not, and celebrate that.

 

Here is the thought for the day:

Marriage- from the Prophet by Kahlil Gilbran

Then Almitra spoke again and said, "And what of Marriage, master?"

And the Prophet answered saying:

You were born together, and together you shall be forevermore.

You shall be together when white wings of death scatter your days.

Aye, you shall be together even in the silent memory of God.

But let there be spaces in your togetherness,

And let the winds of the heavens dance between you.

Love one another but make not a bond of love:

Let it rather be a moving sea between the shores of your souls.

Fill each other's cup but drink not from one cup.

Give one another of your bread but eat not from the same loaf.

Sing and dance together and be joyous, but let each one of you be alone,

Even as the strings of a lute are alone though they quiver with the same music.

Give your hearts, but not into each other's keeping.

For only the hand of Life can contain your hearts.

And stand together, yet not too near together:

For the pillars of the temple stand apart,

And the oak tree and the cypress grow not in each other's shadow.

 

 

Namaste,
Marianne Goldweber