Marriage

One of the things I love about being a minister is officiating at weddings. This is my "wedding season" and I typically perform at least 10 or more from May to August. Some are intimate; on the beach, just the couple and I- and some are elaborately planned and orchestrated, like a Broadway show.

The reasons for getting married are also as diverse as the ceremonies themselves.

But what ties them all together is the natural need to partner with someone who is all the things we are not; that we love, admire and respect...

Like the Yin and Yan the two halves come together to create the whole; both remaining separate enough to be unique to the self-
but complete enough to create the circle.

So it is with Marriage.
The differences between us creates integrity to the whole.

Sometimes along the way we forget that the differences in our partner and ourselves is the beauty of marriage- and we become critical of these same differences that attracted us in the first place.
Which creates a division in the whole.

Today- let's remember that gratefully our partners are very different from ourselves and those differences are what we fell in love with.

Maybe use this as a reason to reflect on your own relationships, and remember the beauty of having someone to share this journey with.


I am blessed to have received the following writing from my spirit guide, which I use in part, in the ceremonies I perform.
It is directed to those who are entering the covenant of Marriage.


Marriage,- Running Bear
In our single-mindedness, our perception is one dimensional.
As we find balance within, we begin to see that we are not meant to travel alone, that in partnering, we gain the insight of another who we admire love and respect.

It gives us that which we do not see in ourselves-
this creating a balance of its own.

You have come together on this path,
now each with a new perspective;
able to see with each others eyes,
Love with each others hearts.

Each of you bringing into this journey gifts to complete the whole-
each in balance.

So as you gift yourselves to one another always remember to:
See with the others eyes, for they are now your own.
Love with the others heart, for it is precious and belongs to you too.
Hear with the others ears for now you hear with knew understanding.

Be thankful, for some in their search are not perceptive enough or cannot step out of themselves to appreciate the journey shared.

So go forward and Love with one heart,
treat it as your own, for it now belongs to you.
See with four eyes, to gain knew perspective.
Hear with new clarity and walk in peace on your journey together.