People are flawed, what they do to us is not personal- even if it appears personal. We may have been victimized by their behavior, however we are not victims; but actually we are targets- and they are really great teachers...sent to force us to learn... to grow.. So if we can believe that WE choose them for that experience- there is nothing to forgive, in fact our prayer is 'Thank you'- Marianne Goldweber