Relationship Building

Change begins with me!
Let's get invested!

When we're in a relationship, whether it's a marriage, a relationship with our children, career or job; we can get caught in the familiarity, and start to take it for granted.
We don't tend to it with the same vigor as when it was new.
Eventually we may find ourselves criticizing our relationship, and the people in it.

Any relationship is like a plant, it needs attention, investment, love, nurturing.

We usually become aware of our own lack of these elements first.
Waiting for these things to be done for us.
If they aren't,we become critical, and begin to withdraw, "separating" ourselves emotionally; looking for reasons to confirm our feelings.

We become a victim.

Lets change our perspective; if we aren't having these things done for us, it also means that we're probably not doing them for the others in our relationships.

We have also taken the situation for granted, we may not be fully invested or loyal.

Since most of you are at work, lets start with that relationship.then You can then try this at home, with kids, wife, husband,or partner later.

First, write down the things that we are dissatisfied with (I'm sure that will be hard!).

Are YOU doing all of these things for the others in your space, unconditionally?

Next, lets change perspective;How are you contributing to this?

Be honest.

Do you have a bad attitude or passive aggressive with you're boss or coworkers?

Are you negative, or usually complaining?

Do you turn in projects in the nick of time? Or procrastinate, scrambling to complete them?

Does everyone know you are unhappy?

Do you work through lunch, work long hours hoping someone will notice your dedication;
as you suffer, silently fuming?

Have you stopped getting dressed up, or stopped putting your best foot forward?

Are you coming in late?

Do you gossip?

This is sabotage, it is destructive. Not only to your own situation, but it spreads your unhappiness like a virus to everyone you "share" it with.

Do you have clear dialogs about your issues/conflicts with the person directly, or do you tell everyone but them?

Lack of Loyalty can be the undoing of any relationship.

It can be the unraveling of any business and can cost jobs.

People and companies can't change what they are doing if they don't know it is an issue.

Clear communication, mature dialog, taking ownership, and apologizing can clear the air.

Let's get honest, and be invested by keeping a positive attitude and speaking our truth.

Maybe we've just not been part of the team. Or, if after setting boundaries, and doing our personal best we are not satisfied, then maybe it is time to find something that will bring you joy.

You can't change people or businesses, get invested and see if it changes.
Find a place that brings you fulfillment.

From the Janitor, to the CEO; we all want validation, appreciation and thoughtfulness.
When we get it, we are willing to give it...
No one wants to do a good job when they aren't appreciated.

You go first and start a chain reaction.

Oh and by the way, feel free to share this with your coworkers.

Have an Awesome Day!

Here is the thought for the day!

The Guy in the Glass by Dale Wimbrow

When you get what you want in your struggle for self
And the world makes you king for a day
Just go to the mirror and look at yourself
And see what that man has to say.

For it isn't your Father or Mother or wife
Whose judgement upon you must pass.
The fellow whose verdict counts most in your life
Is the one staring back from the glass.

Some people may call you a straight shooting chum
And call you a wonderful guy,
but the man in the glass says you're only a bum
If you can't look him straight in the eye.

He's the fellow to please, never mind all the rest
For he's with you clear to the end,
And you have passed your most dangerous test
If the man in the glass is your friend.

You may face the whole world down the pathway of life
And get pats on the back when you pass,
But your final reward will be heartache and strife
If you've cheated the man in the glass.

- Dale Wimbrow, 1895-1954